Posts Tagged ‘self-love’

Are You Suffering? Do you need Healing?

You may be interested in the Morning Share Healing Circle. There is no cost to join the group, and it is open to all. No experience is necessary– only a receptive mind, and a heart that is open to receive. The Circle meets in the privacy of your own home, via conference call, at 10 am EST (New York time), Monday through Friday.

The work varies each day, but we always focus on creating a safe, sacred space for us to thrive in. We lift ourselves with loving, positive affirmations, and deeply relax while listening to guided imagery. Slowly and gently we shift the old beliefs that limit our health and vitality. We become stronger and happier.

The group started because I observed a pattern with my clients and students. They had major breakthroughs when we worked together, but would come back to me suffering anew. When I asked “What happened? Are you doing the homework? Are you caring for yourself as I showed you? Are you doing the energy work?” The answer was always “No.” They had been taught what to do, but failed to do the work long enough to settle into a whole new pattern.

And so I decided to share my morning quiet time to teach them how wonderful it feels to live in a state of Love– to vibrate to it, and to release old pain. I think that when we vibrate to Love, all that returns to us is radiant Love. Initially I set out to just share my daily work, but there have been many positive changes for people, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally.  The more we lift each other and ourselves up to the light, the more radiant joy we attract.

Many people are reporting tremendous leaps in healing and joy. Here are some comments from members of the group:

WOW!  This group is the most amazing gift in awareness I have ever encountered. I can’t quite believe my luck! Every day a new awareness; a new insight; a new way of seeing what you thought you knew! I’m learning so so much; it’s really working for me.

Peggy has a certain way; an integration of a myriad of ideologies western or eastern, that is seamlessly practical and effective and simple. This will help you now… they are amazing. You really do need some kind of daily practice. It’s like checking your Inbox. Luckily for me and thank you endlessly Peggy Ray, mine is definitely more full of love. Thank you Morning Share.

Simply put, this group is a gift I don’t want to miss. I have learnt so much. The daily practice of this knowledge highlights how close we all are to our best and also how rarely we step into that freedom. Everyday I have been gifted with new awareness, new gifts; in fact, I now see my energy system in a much more simplified but effective way.   —Ruu Campbellruucampbell.com


I listen to Peggy’s morning share every day. I love it as it keeps me grounded, so grateful and living in love. Peggy takes us on a new and exciting adventure every day, where we delve into our hidden depths and emerge in love and radiance to start the day.
–Carmel Greenwood; carmelconcepts.com
The morning share has changed my life. Peggy showed me the way; her love gives me the tools to love myself, so I have peace, strength, health, give love, am loved and feel safe. I feel so good; happy, peaceful, relaxed, which almost never happens for me, safe; and most of all I know I am not alone. Peggy is a true gift from God and I am so honored that she came into my life. The energy from the morning share is so strong it is like a bond that can never be broken.    –Sheri Roose

I do LOVE these meditations and feel that it has helped my life tremendously!  You are so gifted and I am so blessed to be a part of all this!  I always have beautiful visuals/scenes in my heart when I listen to your meditations.  There is always a sense of calmness with love and light! Thank you Peggy again!  —Elma Wright

This Morning Share Group is an incredible way to start your day.  Peggy Ray is an amazing, exceptional, positive energy with an enormous heart. She gives so much of herself, her time, talent, and positive energy.  Thank you, Thank you Peggy, this group is such a blessing to me and every morning I feel like I won the lottery.

Just when the world has beat you down and you are not feeling good enough, she takes you and transforms you into this strong, positive being of light and reminds you that the world needs you to shine. I am so grateful for this special time and the knowledge she has given me.

Everyday a new adventure, a dream, a stroll down the highway of awareness, insight and heart felt intentions, which are sometimes hard to bring to the surface. She paints a beautiful picture of places that you have never been but can’t wait to go back to visit. Then at the end of that journey, not only does she make you feel safe, strong, vibrantly healthy, accepted, and whole again, she then wraps you up in a big fluffy pink blanket of love and sends you off in the world to face another day. —Debbie Trafecanty

If you would like to hear a sample of the group, you can listen to my tape of Deep Forgiveness of Self & Others. It is approximately 50 minutes long, and will give you a very good idea of the type of energy generated in the group. If you have been holding a hurt for many years, this tape will help you to release it. You can also visit my blog to learn a Forgiveness Ritual that my guides taught me.

If you would like a shorter sample, you may like Ask Your Angel. It contains a guided meditation designed to help you connect to your Angel, and to ask any questions you need answered.

The calls vary, from 40- 50 minutes in length. If you would like to join our circle, simply let me know. I will send you the information you need to join us. Please invite anyone that you feel would benefit from the call. The more people holding a sacred space, the more healing energy is generated. If you do join us, or friends do, please let me know so that I can notify you of cancellations or last-minute changes.  I will not give out your personal information.

I hope to share my morning with you soon.

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When we are truly loving and accepting of ourselves, we no longer concern ourselves

with what others do… 

Many of us find it difficult to deal with the negative people we encounter. We struggle with our desire to be loving and kind, and yet often feel that our own peaceful lives are made more difficult by our encounters with people that are selfish, controlling or critical. These types of relationships bring up emotional storms within us. The good news is that because they are rooted in the same cause, they have the same remedy–self-love.

When we are truly loving and accepting of ourselves, we no longer concern ourselves with what others do. If they are loving and supportive to us, we are fully able to receive that, for we understand that we are loving and lovable, deserving to receive Love.

When we are truly loving and accepting of ourselves, if we encounter people who are cunning, manipulative, or not living in integrity, we just recognize that these are people who are not in our soul family. We can clearly see that they are choosing to live a different type of experience than one that resonates with us.  We understand that they are involved in a life game that is not of interest to us. And so we nod pleasantly, allowing them to be who they are and to do what they do, while we move on to another type of experience that does inspire us. For Truth simply resonates within us, and we can feel that vibration, just as we can feel it when someone strikes a note of discord within us.

When we are truly loving and accepting of ourselves, our own loving hearts will attract Love and support to us, and the negative people and drama they bring will fall away. The best thing any of us can do is to work on loving and affirming whom we are, how we want to live, and acting as if we were already there.

~ I am Love, and Love is all there is ~

For more on self-love and changing your focus from others to self, read my blog ✫ Spiritual Growth in Tumultuous Times. For more affirmations for healing and positive living, visit my facebook page.

Walk in Love, my friends!


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The real reason that we find it so easy to love some people is not because they are so wonderful. It is because they are love-able– they are able to allow us to express our Love for them. They do this because they have enough self-love to believe that we are sincere in our appreciation for them, and so they let our Love in.

When we don’t feel good enough about ourselves, we block the Love that others would send us. We can’t accept it. We find it hard to believe a compliment; we imagine slings and arrows behind a simple inquiry directed our way. If we think that we are too old or too fat or too damaged or not worthy enough to find Love, then we won’t. One of our favorite ways to punish ourselves is by not allowing the Love in.

Some people believe that they cannot be happy unless they have a special partner who cherishes them above all others. Unless there is someone to lavish love upon them, they feel empty and sad. I believe that the truth is the complete opposite of this idea. I believe that we can never be happy unless we have someone or something else to lavish our love and attention on. The more loving we are to others, the better we feel about ourselves. The kinder you are to others, the more kindly you will feel toward yourself.

When we offer our Love to others, it makes us feel good. We like to think of ourselves as being loving and open-hearted; we feel good when we see that we have perked up an ailing friend; helped a co-worker; listened with compassion to someone who is hurting. We all want to help, and we are delighted when we know we have made a difference. The very small acts of Love and kindness that people quietly and silently offer all day long are part of what makes us good human beings. We look for ways to help; we feel good when we make a positive difference; we feel better when our Love and support is accepted. Even offering help anonymously feels good– donating to a hunger bank or an animal shelter makes us feel that we have done something to make the world a better place. In giving our time or treasure or talent to another, we are offering our Love.

The next time you feel sad or lonely, turn your thoughts to those around you. Ask yourself, whom do you know who could use a little Love or an unexpected act of kindness? You don’t have to force yourself outside of your comfort zone by making speeches. Instead, try a little nosegay of wildflowers in a jar outside your neighbor’s door; pick up papers in the park; weed your aunt’s garden for her; bring your neighbor’s paper up to her door when you get your own; donate clothing to a shelter or old linens to an animal shelter. You’ll feel better that you did!

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~A grieving heart is an open heart, and an open heart is the doorway to true joy, and a life of Love~

We can never really know what anyone else’s purpose in life is. It is so easy to view others with criticism or intolerance, whilst declaring confidently how they ‘should’ act. But all things are as we need them to be, for a period of time at least, until we wake up, realize that we are suffering, and choose to transform our lives. We all have the right to choose how we will learn. Some lessons come only through suffering, just as some lessons come only through joy. Eventually we wake up and understand that emotional and even most physical suffering will not kill us; we must go on living whether we want to or not. At that point, grace arrives, and we cease to fear suffering.

A wise person knows that suffering is but a state of mind, it is not who we are. It is a fleeting state of existence, and we have the power to change how we view it. It never fails to amaze me how many of us handle what we view as ‘negative’ emotions. When we are sad or angry, we spend countless hours figuring it all out. We feel compelled to analyze our sorrow, look at it from all sides, dig deeply into the past to find the root of it. Yet when we are happy, we do not ask ourselves “Why am I so darned happy? How long will this last? What is the root of this joy?” Instead, we relax, and simply experience our state of happiness. We are content to hang suspended in our blissful moments of joy. The fact that we suspect they will not last forever makes them seem all the more sweet.

Suffering is unavoidable. Our bodies grow old, our loved ones get sick, our children fall down, and we experience times of stress, hardship, loss, or betrayal. Many of us expend a tremendous amount of energy to run away from our pain. We get creatively busy to distract ourselves, or numb ourselves in an infinite assortment of ways.  If we would approach our fleeting moments of unhappiness the same way as we do our periods of joy, our suffering would pass more quickly. A grieving heart is an open heart, and an open heart is the doorway to true joy, and a life of Love.

When you are in grief, allow yourself the respect to truly feel it. Wallow in your pain– let it deeply permeate your being. Lie on your bed, and cry aloud– “Oh! I am suffering, why me? Oh, it hurts!” Roll back and forth, scream and cry, as a child would. It is amazing how quickly the feelings will pass if you allow them the freedom to fully manifest. It is when we start numbing ourselves– trying desperately to keep ourselves from feeling them fully, that they persist and cloud our daily lives. Children scream and fuss and then suddenly– the cloud burst dissipates and they are sunny and full of energy again. There is no residue of suppressed emotion to dampen their spirits. The moment passes and they move forward unfettered. If you must suffer, then suffer beautifully. The very fact that you are open enough to feel your pain is a gift. Try it– you will be amazed at how well it works.

Many people tell me that they cannot let themselves go– that they can’t cry. They have ignored their own feelings and told themselves to buck up and stop whining for so long that being numb has become a habitual state of being. The only way that they can get through life is by shutting themselves down so that they do not feel their own pain. They float through life, mired in a world of no highs, no lows. Is it any wonder that so many of us are depressed?

My solution is to rent a bunch of sad movies. So many of the Disney movies, for instance, are really horrendously brutal. Poor baby Bambi loses his mother in a terrifying forest fire in the first five minutes. Poor baby Dumbo is driven to the point of self-immolation due to the cruelty of others. Old tearjerkers abound: Brian’s Song; Love Story; Now, Voyager and Mildred Pierce are just a few. Grab a bunch of sad movies, watch one every day for two weeks, and have a good cry while you do. If your family catches you, you can blame it on the movie and they’ll cry with you. By the time your two weeks have passed, you will feel transformed. Don’t ever underestimate the cleansing power of a good cry. Let your tears flow, and you will feel enormously better.

Allowing yourself to fully grieve sends a message to your inner self that you truly care about yourself. By allowing yourself to acknowledge how you really feel, deep down in your heart of hearts, you are telling yourself that it is okay to feel your true feelings. You are telling your inner self that it is safe for you to be authentically yourself, without shame or holding back. You are not feeling one way and acting another way in order to please others. Too many of us worry more about not making others feel uncomfortable than we do about being compassionate to ourselves. Let your tears flow, and your painful emotions will ease.

The true purpose of pain and suffering is to teach us something important. Suffering is the great teacher. Suffering works because we pay much greater attention to our pain than we do to our joy. When we are happy and things are going well, we don’t question it. Much of the time, we don’t even notice it– we merely accept that things are going well for us. Yet when things are not going our way, we notice that immediately, and then ask ourselves what the problem is. We question how we can adjust so that our pain will cease.  What better way to catch our own attention than by throwing a boulder in the middle of the road ahead? We surely won’t miss that!

Every great hero through time has faced a series of challenges to prove his or her own strength and courage. You are the hero of your own life story, as we all are. You are looking to teach yourself important lessons through your painful mistakes and losses. Ask yourself: What lesson has this suffering taught me? What have I learned now that could have helped me avoid this experience if only I had known it earlier? After all, if you knew any better, would you have made the choices you did? As long as you are human, you will continue to mess up at times. The real trick is to get back up, dust yourself off, and discover the underlying lesson, so that you are not doomed to repeat the painful experience. Take responsibility for your mistake, make amends where appropriate, acknowledge what you have learned, and allow yourself to forgive your error and move on. Keep the wisdom, and release the needless suffering.

Remember, everything in life is a gift. Some gifts come encircled in beautiful wrappings, and we are delighted to receive them. Some gifts come wrapped in ugly paper, and we may not view them so enthusiastically. Yet all things in life hold value; all events in life are gifts no matter how ugly they may appear to be. It is our responsibility to unwrap them, and to look for the beauty within each circumstance. In truth, suffering may be the greatest gift of all.

~  I find beauty within all things, and Life is good. ~

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We are living in tumultuous times. We are being called to let go of what no longer serves us, whether we consciously want to release these parts of self or not. All things that have kept us stuck and have prevented us from becoming our very best, whether it is our fear, an old wound, a relationship, a lack of forgiveness or an outdated belief, are being torn away from us now. Nothing that has outlived its usefulness to our own highest good will remain with us any longer, no matter how we try to hold on.

This process can seem very painful and even frightening, as if the very essence of us is being ripped away. Many people are experiencing intense feelings of fear and anxiety. Some are suffering with sudden rashes or welts, throbbing headaches, sleeplessness, nausea and undefined feelings of restlessness. Others are facing unexpected life decisions that feel downright scary– job changes, relationship upheavals, family crises, relocations.

If we reframe these experiences as part of the natural stretching that occurs as we shift and grow, then it will become much easier for us to release our old baggage and move forward. The spiritual and emotional energies surrounding us now are rising to a higher level, and we are shedding dead weight so that we can soar to new heights. Some of us have carried our burdens for so long that we literally feel as if we are our burdens. Spirit is attempting to help us release everything that has kept us trapped in any type of restriction. If we will consciously attempt to surrender and let go, it will help us release the dead weight and to soar ever higher.

For years our focus has been on caring for others and carrying those who would not take the responsibility to love and care for themselves. Many people spend so much time and energy looking after the emotional needs of others, that they have absolutely nothing left over for them. As more people have begun working on self-love and self-approval, they have begun to see that they are not responsible for making anyone happy but themselves.

This new paradigm emerging is one of self-responsibility. If I am responsible for my own happiness, and if I take charge of my own needs and wants without waiting for someone or something else outside of myself to fill the emotional void I feel inside, then everyone else can and must do the same for themselves.

If we are responsible only for our own healing, we can freely love and support others without feeling frustrated, angry or manipulated because we feel an obligation to heal their pain. Once I determine that I am important enough to put my own energy into me, I will fix my pain; you fix your pain. It is your right and your responsibility to help yourself feel safe, happy, fulfilled and loved. It is not the job of your parents, lover, friend or spouse to do so.  We cannot change others, nor do we have the right to try; but we sure can change ourselves!

Here are some points to remember:

1. Everyone sees life differently, based upon his or her own background, personality and soul path. It is okay for you to be exactly who you are and to make choices that are perfect for you right now; no one else has to like or approve of you or the things you resonate to.

2. It is okay for everyone else to have the same rights and ability to choose, based upon their background, beliefs and soul path. If you want the right to make choices that resonate to you, then you must offer that same freedom to others, even if you think their choices are unhealthy, unloving or ignorant.

3. We all have the right to make new choices at any time we desire. You are not the same person you were 10 years ago, and your current choices may be very different from the ones you made years ago. As we shift and grow, we are able to make healthier choices. We have the right to change our minds, whether others find that convenient or not.

4. Don’t focus on anyone else’s life or behavior. Focus on your own ability to make choices that will provide you with what you need, and what is important to you.

5. Do make it a priority to give yourself some safe space every day. How can you reduce your stress level, rest more, give yourself respite from the chaos of the world? Even the busiest person can allow themselves 20 minutes a day for quiet reflection.  If you have no stillness in your life, you will react to whatever life offers, not consciously create intentions for a happy life.

6. Don’t waste time, breath and energy trying to fix anyone else. They aren’t broken, they are learning. They have the right to make mistakes and to grow through them.

7. The best way to help anyone else is to lovingly surrender him or her to God’s care and keeping. You are not abandoning them by refusing to obsess about them; you are affirming that they are enfolded in the loving arms of a being infinitely more capable to support them than you are.

8. Do drink more water. The extra hydration will help you to withstand the added electrical energies flooding through your body.

9. Do use your breath to keep yourself calm, balanced and focused. It’s free, it’s effective, and it’s portable. Try this exercise that my Spirit guides taught me:

Breathe slowly and deeply. Bring your breath in through your nose or your mouth. Allow yourself to fully expand your chest cavity. Push the breath down into your stomach area, then visualize that you are releasing it through your feet. Keep using this image of breath moving in, down, and through to relax and center your body.

10. I find essential oil blends invaluable to help me stay balanced and focused. I do not think that I could do the work I do without them. The Young Living blend White Angelica helps me to seal off my energy so that I do not feel invaded by the energy of others. I also use Sacred Mountain to keep me grounded and centered. A new oil, Palo Santo, is said to be very effective for guarding against the negative emotions of others and to safeguard psychic sensitivity. You can get more information or order the oils at my link here:  http://peggyray.younglivingworld.com

11. Use affirmations, journaling, visualization and prayer to reframe your old beliefs.  Here are some affirmations to help get you started:

~ I love and accept myself exactly as I am. ~

~ I surrender the past and make room for new love and greater joy. ~

~ I am free to change in every possible way. ~

~ I am creating a life I love! ~

~ I release with Love, and make room for Joy. ~

~ I am a beloved child of the Universe. It is my pleasure to cherish myself,

exactly as I am. ~

For more healing affirmations, visit my Facebook page under Rev Peggy Ray

Finally, I would like to leave you with advice that my Spirit guides have taught me:

First, take good loving care of yourself; then offer Love and care with open arms to others. First you, then them!

Walk in Love,



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